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Following The Leader Where Ever She May Go

Saturday, February 4th, 2012

Previous Post – The Disciples Prayer

Last Tuesday, at the annual Desiring God pastors conference, well-known pastor & author John Piper advocated for what he calls a “masculine Christianity,” claiming that “God has given Christianity a masculine feel.”

“God revealed Himself in the Bible pervasively as king not queen; father not mother,” Piper said. “The second person of the Trinity is revealed as the eternal Son not daughter; the Father and the Son create man and woman in His image and give them the name man, the name of the male…God appoints all the priests in the Old Testament to be men; the Son of God came into the world to be a man; He chose 12 men to be His apostles; the apostles appointed that the overseers of the Church be men; and when it came to marriage they taught that the husband should be the head.”

“Now, from all of that I conclude that God has given Christianity a masculine feel,” said Piper. “And being God, a God of love, He has done that for our maximum flourishing both male and female… He does not intend for women to languish or be frustrated or in any way suffer or fall short of full and lasting joy in this masculine Christianity. From which I infer that the fullest flourishing of women and men takes place in churches and families that have this masculine feel.”

More of his comments can be found here.

Generally, my online response to such controversies are to remain silent- not because I do not believe that such dangerous theology should not be confronted, but rather because, in the age of viral-videos and social media, I resist giving more air time to what I believe is ignorant, dangerous, damaging, etc.

However, when Rachel Held Evans called upon Christian men to respond, I felt compelled to break that rule.  Rachel’s challenge was as follows:

“There’s a double-standard out there in which a woman’s critique of patriarchy tends to get discounted as nothing more than the rants of an “angry feminist,” and, truth be told, I’ve grown a bit weary of hearing that charge each time I speak out about this disturbing trend in the evangelical church.

So instead, I’d like to challenge the guys to respond.”

Rachel is a writer whose passion and poignancy continues to challenge me to grow in faith and truth.  Without a question, she is a leader in the Body of Christ who I need to follow.  Her ability bring life to God’s truth- yes, that means she teaches from Scripture- and communicate it effectively and engagingly in our current culture and context is a gift to Christian everywhere.  And so, I felt her invitation deserved a response.

Since volumes have been written about what God (and His written Word) has to say about gender, I will not attempt to explain the details of what I believe and how I arrived there.  Rather, let me sum it up by saying that I am deeply convinced that God calls both women and men into all vocations in the Church, gifting and empowering them to walk with one another in obedience to those callings.  Therefore, I believe women are called to pastor churches, to teach Christians of all ages and gender.  I have seen such women walk in that obedience and have been blessed to submit to their authority, including and especially my wife, Kim.

Further, I believe that in a marriage relationship between a man and a woman, they are to work together in mutual submission, respecting the differences in their giftings and experience- difference that are apparent in the unique individual, not based on their gender.  There have been many times in which I have rightfully submitted to the authority of my wife.  At times it was because she was clearly more knowledgeable, gifted and/or experienced in the situation at hand or because we believe that the Spirit was leading her.  In faith, we work through our differences and, when necessary, submit to the other as we see appropriate.  It is not always easy nor efficient, but it seems to me that following Christ rarely is.

As I read the story of God through Scripture and study the move of God through the rest of history, I am deeply convinced that the patriarchy that is so prevalent is a reflection of the brokenness of sin which has been and is being reversed by the redemptive work of Christ.  That reversal is the work of the Spirit, breaking into the world and making God’s impossible kingdom a reality.  This is the work of God, the work of Christ and thus, the work of His Body.

We are called to be the living alternative to the broken reality of what we see in the world around us.  Failure to do so is to walk in rebellion against the only Saviour worthy of our devotion and the only King worthy of our obedience.  There is no more or even possibility for neutrality on this issue.  As Desmond Tutu once said:

“If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor. If an elephant has its foot on the tail of a mouse and you say that you are neutral, the mouse will not appreciate your neutrality.”

Worse than silence or supposed neutrality is identify the brokenness of sin in our lives and call it sacred.  It is seems almost tantamount to apostasy to celebrate as God’s intention the devastating consequences of our sin.

While unpopular to say so, I believe that Piper (and those like him) affirm these flawed beliefs out of the best intentions.  They are seeking to be faithful to what they believe is God’s design for His people- for all people.  This truth does not excuse them of the resulting sin- and yes, I believe it must be called sin- however, it should give us pause in how we respond to such failings.

Public and prophetic rebuke is often necessary in such cases.  However, there are few who seem to be able to make such corrections with the grace necessary to still reflect the God waiting to forgive their (and our) sins (and I believe Rachel is one of those few). Instead, the primary response by Christians should be one of humility, grace and unparalleled devotion to live the better alternative, at any cost.

Every generation looks back upon the Church before us and finds their failings and blind spots obvious and hard to comprehend.  Yet, like them, we are equally blind to our own failings.  The realization that our grandchildren will shake their heads at some of our failings should nurture in us a patient grace.  While it might be gratifying to “crucify” (and I do not use that word by accident) those we rightly rebuke, most are being as faithful in their flawed beliefs as we are in our own.  Yes, we need to be strong, clear and uncompromising in our correction, but love and grace must win.

As a Christian man, I am committed to submitting to Christ by submitting to the women He has called, gifted and commanded to lead His Church.  While I am grateful and humbled to do so, it should not be credited to me as meritorious in any way.  While such a commitment might be exceptional with respect to past and current realities, our measure is Christ and His kingdom.  To do any less is unacceptable.

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Deviant Sexuality

Tuesday, July 19th, 2011

Previous Post – Mediocrity & the Measure of Jesus

Like the vast majority of you, when I write an email or a blog post, I do so on a keyboard that takes it’s name from the first 6 letters at the top left of the keyboard: QWERTY.  And probably also like most of you, I have always worked under the assumption that some great minds than mine had mathematically determined this layout as the most efficient and logical pattern to use.  However, that’s not exactly true.

The QWERTY keyboard was developed in the 1870’s by newspaper editor Christopher Sholes.  Sholes went through several trials, both with respect to the layout of the keys and the construction of the machine, in an attempt to produce a model a writing machine that would function efficiently and effectively.  The faster a person could use the machine, the more likely it would lock up, especially when more frequently used letters were too near to each other.  Sholes dedicated himself to overcoming those problems, which eventually led to the QWERTY layout we are familiar with today.

While some claim that Sholes intentionally created a layout that would force the user to type more slowly, that isn’t entirely true.  Rather, the layout was designed to avoid the problems caused by the physical design of the machine.  It worked so well that it quickly became the standard layout on all machines.  However, as technology advanced, the problems that necessitated such a layout disappeared, yet QWERTY has persisted.  It is easily argued that far more efficient and even healthy layouts available (such as the Dvorak Simplified Keyboard, whose proponents argue even reduces carpal tunnel syndrome).  Yet try as they might, no one has made any marked headway in changing the norm.

So what does keyboard layout have to do with deviant sexuality?  Bear with me a little longer as I make that connection.  First, let’s talk about deviance.  That word, especially when coupled with “sexuality” immediately conjures up ideas of moral compromise at best, perversion at worst.  However, deviance simply means things, such as actions, behaviors or ideas, that violate cultural and social norms.  That is they deviate from that which is expected.  Deviance, as a concept, is not at all about morality.  So in this case, if we came across a keyboard that used a different layout than QWERTY, it would be a deviant example in our context.  Of course, few people would have a moral outcry about such an example, but inform them that their workplace will be requiring them to make the switch and people begin to behave badly.  Why?

There obvious argument is that the change is unnecessary.  If it’s not broke, why fix it?  The inevitable delays of relearning the system would seem to over shadow the potential efficiency improvement promised, at least in the short term.  And yet, even with convincing evidence in the long term benefit, most people wouldn’t bother.  In fact, the vast majority of QWERTY users, if they give it any thought at all, just accept their own assumption that someone who knows better has created the best possible layout.  Why rock the boat?

These same dynamic are often at play with respect to sexuality and gender identity, yet with obviously much bigger stakes.  So many characteristics that we associate with what it means to be masculine or feminine have formed through incredibly complex histories, shaped by culture, climate, the arts, economics, politics, etc.  And biological factors, such as body chemistry and physiology, play significant roles in developing them.  Looking throughout history and across cultures, we find an endless (and increasing) diversity in how these factors play out- sometimes for the good, sometimes for the bad, sometimes with no apparent good or bad either way.

We become familiar with what we know, what we were raised to see, experience and participate in.  As the world continues to get smaller and more interconnected, those cultural ghettos increasingly bump into each other.  For many, this can feel disconcerting and even threatening.  Their very fundamental assumptions about certain realities are being challenged by examples that contradict their norm.  This leads to groups circling the wagon to defend those fundamentals, reinforcing their belief that their norms are universal absolutes and that any that are different are flawed and, essentially, deviant.

As a Christian, I believe that there are absolute truths.  So it is not a matter (or an option) for to simply dismiss everyone who responds as described above.  After all, what if the fundamental they are defending is an absolute truth?  That is a fair question, but one that is not easy to answer.  Thus, we need to be willing to hold our beliefs with the tempered conviction- a chastened certainty- willing to explore the possibility that what we reject as immoral might simply be different.

I recently asked Scot McKnight the question, “Are there universal (and/or biblical) characteristics that are gender specific?”.  After acknowledging the complexity of the issue, Scot responded:

“My reading in the past leads me to think this is a question for which the answers are just more questions.”

Anyone who knows Scot knows that he is not suggesting that, given this dynamic, we shouldn’t ask the questions.  Far from it!  Rather, I believe Scot is cautioning us not to be too quick to jump to conclusions and be willing to keep exploring these dynamics carefully.

In many ways, my masculinity is deviant from culture in which I live.  I’ve never enjoyed sports much.  My very competitive wife is the gifted athlete in our family.  I’ve always been drawn to theatre, poetry and music styles such as classical, opera, etc.  I’ve known for years that my part of the vocation that God has called me to is to be a stay-at-home Dad.  For some, this is not only deviant, but grounds for formal church discipline.

As a man and a father, I do not take their concerns lightly.  I do not want to violate God’s plan for me, nor do I want to risk harming my son by modeling something wrong.  So I have genuinely dedicated myself to years of study, prayer and consideration.  While I have not come to absolute conclusions on all matters, I believe with deep conviction that I am fully and wholly a man.  I am the man God wanted/wants me to be.  I will raise my son to be the man God has created him to be, even if that means my son will be rugby playing outdoors man who likes hunting moose with his teeth!

We must always remember that our visceral reaction to the deviance we encounter is not proof that such things are worthy of suspicion or condemnation.  Ignorance and unfamiliarity can fuel certainty in powerful ways.  Jesus was (and is), in so many ways, a deviant in His time- socially, religiously, politically, economically.  We must never forget that our identity and our unity as Christians is entirely and essentially bound up in that same person.

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