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Little Flowers: Believing, Belonging, Behaving

WedAug 25

Tags: Belief, Forgiveness, Missional
Posted in Bible, Community, Evangelism, Missional, church | 19 Comments »

Previous Post – Reflections on my YWAM Family

As I mentioned in my previous post, I spent last week with the staff of YWAM Canada at our national staff conference in Pinawa, MB.  In addition to it being a great time of connecting and refreshing, it was also a time for us to collective challenge one another, asking the difficult questions that face us when we actively seek to live Christ together for the purpose of His mission.  In many of those discussions, especially on what it means to be an inclusive and embracing people, we quite often came to a place where someone would say, “Ok, but where do we draw the line?”

This question all too often left me frustrated, as though we were asking the wrong question.  This is not to say that the underlying concern of this question is not important.  I do believe that inclusion and embrace inevitably must have boundaries.  The question, though, is how and where and what is involved in setting those boundaries in place.  All too often we feel we have to start with a line, start with a set of deal-breakers which people have to adhere to (or at least acknowledge) before they can meaningfully belong to the community of faith.  I think this goes against the heart of how Jesus embodied these dynamics.

When asked to explain it another way at the conference, I decided to try and communicate through an analogy.  The following is what I came up with on the spot.  Now, before we start taking this to extremes, I acknowledge that this is an imperfect analogy in many ways, but it provides a simply touchstone (icon, if you will) into the deeper dynamics.  So bear with me.

In Mark 9, when Jesus responds to the man whose son was being tormented by an evil spirit, the man declares, “I do believe; help my unbelief.”  Here we see a person who clearly believes in Christ and His authority to heal his son.  Yet he also acknowledges that he needs to be saved from his unbelief.  To me this is the mustard seed, the seed of belief.  Belief as seed says a great deal- it is a tiny medium of promise and potential.  It holds within it the potential for something far great than itself.  A seed on its own is nothing.  A seed must be planted.

Often it is here that we presume that belief plants itself in our hearts, and while there is an element of truth there, the soil in which seed of belief will sprout new life in Christ.  Like a seed, we must die to our sin-isolated selves before we can spring to new life in Christ.  Here is where the shift in our thinking takes place, because again we are prone to look at our salvation in Christ through purely individualistic terms.  Rather, Jesus has (by the Holy Spirit) made the Church His Body.  Therefore, it is in the soil of belonging in the embrace of true community that the seed of belief can be reborn to new life.  Unless that seed has the life-giving, life-sustaining soil in which to plant, we cannot expect it transform.

As the seed of belief does sprout new life in the soil of belonging, it begins to be shaped DNA inherent in the seed.  It is being raised into the image of the resurrected Christ while also being restored to its intended nature of being created in God’s image.  It spreads its roots in the soil of belonging and sprouts into the world as the flower it was meant to be.  As clumsy as the term might sound, here I call this the flower of behaviour.  The flower acts and grows and reproduces according to its nature (again Christ).  It did not have to behave like a flower into order to belong, but rather it was only able to be a flower after it had been embraced, rooted and nurtured in the context of belonging.

So where are the boundaries?  Unlike seeds and flowers, our free will means that we do make choices that go against the intentions of God, that our behaviour doesn’t reflect the DNA of Christ reborn within us.  However, this understanding teaches us that the for new life to be born, we have to accept a degree of uncertainty when embracing people with “unflowered” belief.  Jesus did not teach us that we need to examine each seed before we plant it, He said we will know the nature of the seed by the nature of the fruit it produces.  This demands that we allow fruit to be produced first.  This is risky.  This is messy.  This is complicated.  It is necessary.

Further, this forces us to realize that the nature and quality of the soil should be one of first and primary concerns.  So often we spend so much time and energy requiring behaviour of people before they can be accepted into our communities.  Rather, we must be looking to the planks in our own eyes (or the weeds, in this case), not only for our own sakes, but for the sake of the delicate seeds of belief that are seeking to take root among us.  Rather than purity-police trying to protect the integrity of what is ours, we need to see it as mothers protecting and nurturing the vulnerable new life within us.  We bear the greater responsibility at this stage.  It is our behaviour that must be held to a high standard.

I cannot help but think of the story of the woman caught in adultery who was brought for Jesus for judgment.  By the letter of the law of Moses this woman had legitimately “crossed the line”.  Her exclusion from the community was so clear that it allowed for absolute exclusion- death.  And yet Jesus does not exclude her- don’t miss how critical that is as a first response- but rather stoops down and begins to draw in the dirt.  Then He turns to the accusers- again addressing the sin of the believers before the sinner- and invites him without sin to cast the first stone, then returns to the dirt.  When He stands up again, He see that He and the woman are alone.  He asks her if no one accuses her, to which she replies that there is no one.  Then Jesus says, “Neither do I condemn you”- Jesus is the only man who could have rightfully condemned her, yet He does not- then says, “Go and sin no more”.  It is here, at the end of this process that Jesus finally address behaviour.  He knows that her behaviour is more likely to be transformed by His loving defense (at His own real risk) and embrace than through fear of the the judgment of the law, legitimate as it may be.

Where do we draw the line?  Sometimes, when I read the story of Jesus and this woman, I imagine that when Jesus stoops down that He was drawing a line in the sand.  He drew a line in the sand between the accusers and the woman.  And He stood on her side of the line.

Where do we draw the line?  Why do we draw the line?

Tags: Belief, Forgiveness, Missional

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19 Responses to “Little Flowers: Believing, Belonging, Behaving”

  1. Ryan says:
    August 25, 2010 at 12:28 pm

    Fantastic analogy Jamie. The idea of “looking to the planks in our own eyes (or the weeds, in this case), not only for our own sakes, but for the sake of the delicate seeds of belief that are seeking to take root among us” is a powerful one. It’s interesting (and challenging) to think about investing in the relational/spiritual/emotional health of our churches as a kind of “soil preparation” for the seeds that will come.

    Thanks for this. I plan on shamelessly plagiarizing it at my first available opportunity :) .

  2. Jamie says:
    August 25, 2010 at 12:34 pm

    Thanks Ryan. Since I plagiarized from Jesus, I guess it is only fair your return the favour!

    The implications of this are staggering to me. This will not be easy and not without a fair number of sacred cows getting BBQed. Walking this out is so important.

    Peace,
    Jamie

  3. len says:
    August 25, 2010 at 12:54 pm

    Jamie, for me it has been really helpful to think in terms of bounded and centered sets, and even a combination of the two in a community formed around a covenant.
    http://nextreformation.com/?p=4283

    And further to your thoughts from Mark, how about Mark 14? The chapter opens with the story of Judas. but notice what happens around the table, one of the symbols we use to measure who is “in.” Jesus knows who Judas is AND what he will do – yet even dips in the same bowl with him. Stunning!! Then notice what follows. First, all the disciples flee. Then one of the real IN guys – Peter- denies he ever knew Jesus.

    Whew. There is no “in” or “out” worth measuring in this chapter. Its all about our brokenness.

  4. Peggy says:
    August 25, 2010 at 12:56 pm

    Love your heart here, Jamie! Great analogy — we do need to keep it simple and organic so that it isn’t far from the “hearing” to the “doing” — since we don’t really “know” something until we experience it.

    Blessings to you, brother. Your journey is an encouragement to me … and so many others.

  5. Jamie says:
    August 25, 2010 at 3:11 pm

    Len, thanks for the addition of the Judas story. Amazing!

    Peggy, thanks for the kind words. It is a scary thought at times, but living this is thrilling.

    Peace,
    Jamie

  6. Josh Mueller says:
    August 25, 2010 at 9:41 pm

    Loved the post and the organic view of belonging and behavior. When it comes to deal-breakers I believe it’s all about communication. We don’t want to communicate exclusion as a sign of where our love (or more importantly, God’s love) reaches a limit or comes to an end. As long as people understand that for the sake of love, and for the sake of protecting people from harm, things like discipline and setting boundaries are necessary and that we don’t want to reject them as people or strip them of their worth and dignity, it really shouldn’t be such a big deal. Problem is: we often don’t communicate very well or carry out disciplinary measures in such a way that people still get the wrong message.

  7. Jamie says:
    August 25, 2010 at 9:45 pm

    Josh, you are dead right. We can still have boundaries, but adapt ourselves to be welcoming rather than demanding the other change for our sakes first. Further, we can’t just have a static line on all things, for every persons uniquely. Two people facing the same “issue” might require very different responses- different in such a way that a standard line won’t help. Thanks!

    Peace,
    Jamie

  8. Lisa F. says:
    August 26, 2010 at 1:34 am

    Fantastic dialogue here!
    This is often something I have struggled through. I think that so often we have such a high standard for those integrating into our communities that the same expectations continue to compound once people are “in”. This is where we see people in leadership suffering in sins of morality but unable to confess and walk in accountability for fear of being “outed”. If we can’t be honest inside our communities about our struggles, how then, will we offer grace and a place to bloom to those who are new recipients of the gift of faith? How do we keep healthy expectations while giving room for brokenness?

  9. Jamie says:
    August 26, 2010 at 8:05 am

    Thanks Lisa. That is a very good point. Love and grace need to be the constant throughout.

    Peace,
    Jamie

  10. Warren Schatz says:
    August 26, 2010 at 11:55 am

    I very much liked your analogy Jamie, and this whole believe, belong, behave thing is an issue we about to get very serious about at our church – trying to show our people that others must belong before they can believe or behave. And if Paul can mix metaphors so can you!
    Len, one pushback – throughout 1 Corinthians there seems to be a very strong distinction made between who is in and out – I do believe that matters – however, also in 1 Corinthians Paul wasn’t interested in policing those who were still ‘out’ but much more about telling those ‘in’ to get their act together. Just wondering how we would respond to Paul’s thinking along with Jesus.

  11. Warren Schatz says:
    August 26, 2010 at 11:59 am

    Oh, also forgot to ask if I can use some of this material in our discussions/messages at our church over the next month or so?

  12. Jamie says:
    August 26, 2010 at 12:02 pm

    Thanks Warren. Good question to Len as well. I’ll give it some thought too.

    Peace,
    Jamie

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  15. Tom Davis says:
    August 28, 2010 at 10:21 am

    Jamie,

    Great post. Very well thought out. I love the your term, “soil of belonging.” Much to think about it. Hope you’re well!

  16. Jamie says:
    August 28, 2010 at 3:58 pm

    Thanks Tom. The “soil of belonging” has a great deal of imagery, doesn’t it? I am well.

    Peace.

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  18. Jamie says:
    August 31, 2010 at 8:04 pm

    Warren, feel free. Thanks for asking!

    Peace,
    Jamie

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